Two words, one big concept – domestic violence. Formerly known as “wife beating”, sometimes used interchangeably with intimate partner violence, and including a number of individual abuses, domestic violence is a problem that impacts individuals but must be addressed as a nation. Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. Understanding what domestic violence is and the many ways it can show up in relationships is the first step to creating a culture that has zero tolerance for domestic violence. After all, how can you change what you can’t understand? By the end of this post, you’ll know what domestic violence is and the specific abusive behaviors that are considered part of domestic violence.
Domestic violence is the willful intimidation as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. Frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically, but the constant of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.
It’s important to note that domestic violence doesn’t always manifest in one specific way. Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them, are the most apparent forms of domestic violence and are usually what makes others aware of the problem. But regular use of other abusive behaviors by the abuser, when reinforced by one or more acts of physical violence, make up a larger scope of abuse. Although physical assaults may occur only occasionally, they instill fear of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to control the victims’ life and circumstances. A lack of physical violence doesn’t mean the abuser is any less dangerous to the victim, nor does it mean the victims is any less trapped. Emotional and psychological abuse can often be just as extreme as physical violence.
But what kinds of actions are considered abusive? Read on for examples of each kind of abuse.
Domestic violence is a term that includes many different abuses with a multitude of different ways to exert power and control over the abuser’s victim. If you think you are being abused by someone you love, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE for confidential, anonymous help.